My Mom has been living in an assisted living building for over 2 years. It costs a lot of money each month – approx. 4,600 each month. She likes it, enjoys her meals and is use to the people and her room. It is her money that is paying for her to stay there and there is enough money in her bank account to fund this place for the rest of Mom’s life. My sister thinks that it is costing too much money and we should move her to a government place or somewhere cheaper. I don’t think that Mom would like to move. What should I do?
I hear this same situation from many families. One person wants to save money and often that person does not take into account that Mom is quite happy there. In my mind there is only one correct answer. Since it is your Mother’s money that is funding her location, than spend her money on her. I think that you sister is being very selfish and wanting more money left to her when your mother dies. It is not your sister’s money, it is your Mother’s money.
It is all about knowing and respecting what your Mother likes. As long as there are the funds to keep her in this nice place, keep her there. If you move her, than shame on both of you. Your sister is showing her true colours – and they are the colours of being selfish, greedy and unloving. Your sister needs to think about what is best for your mother, not what is best for her.