I’m So Tired!
I take of my parent’s full time. They have moved into my home and although this has decreased my travel time, it has increased the amount of care that I give them. They are even more dependent on me than before. I am so tired and feel so alone. Do you have any ideas to make our lives better?
Donna
So Far Away
I live far away from my parents. My sister does most of the care giving for them. How can I help?
Steve
Open to Hope Book
I am honoured to have one of my stories included in this new hard cover book just out this week on Amazon. This is an American Foundation out of Chicago. They are dedicated to helping people who deal with grief by helping them to move past their grief. The stories in the book are inspirational…
Mom is dying, what do I tell her?
My Mother is in the hospital and I have been told by her oncologist that her breast cancer is much worse. She has less than 3 months to live. There is nothing left that anyone can do for her. Mom is being transferred to a facility for palliative patients. My Mother really does not know that she is dying. What do I say to her?
Nick:
No Dinner
I dropped by after work a couple of times this week to see my parents who are both in their mid 70’s. I was shocked to find the house in darkness, my Mother asleep and my Dad watching TV. I asked him if they had had an early supper. He just simply said, there is no supper tonight. He said basically the same thing on my second visit this week.
Seems Mom sleeps alot in the afternoon and does not make supper anymore. What? Why? As of when?
Many nights my Father makes some toast and jam for his dinner around 8:30 when he starts to get hungry. He was not really sure when my mother ate. He also told me that she gets very mad if he starts to make dinner, so he does not bother anyone. Just not worth another fight.
What should I do? I hate the thought of them not eating properly. I work all day and cannot drop by every day to check on them.
Mike
What the hell am I supposed to do?
I just found out that my brother who was my Dad’s POA purchased the family cottage from my Dad just 3 weeks before he died. My Dad died in July, 2010. I went in there this week, and the door key did not work. My brother had not only changed the keys, but forgot to tell me that he now owns our family jewel.
Lee
Stealing
There seems to be odd things missing from my mother’s dresser in her bedroom – she lives in our hosue with us. Lately some of her jewellery and money have gone missing. I expect my cleaning lady is stealing from her.
Jan
How To Talk About Money
I was honoured to contribute an article in the recent edition of a wonderful magazine called: “Solutions” I write about the challenges and the importance of talking with an aging parent about financial and legal issues. If you would like a copy of this magazine, please let me know.
Every other year!
My mother-in-law just died and my husband came home and told me that he has made an arrangement with his sister about their mother’s ashes. Here is what they have decided (all without opinions of other, of course).
Each will keep the urn for one year. On the anniversary of their mother’s death, they will transfer the urn to the other person. So, it will start that my sister-in-law gets the urn first – for the first year. Then we get it for the second year, and so on.
I think that they should have talked to us (their families) before the two of them decided this. What do you think?
RB